X-Message-Number: 15893
Date: Sun, 18 Mar 2001 11:38:25 -0800 (PST)
From: Scott Badger <>
Subject: Re: Happiness

Some selective thoughts on  Happiness  which I have
shamelessly copied from the internet.

According to the Dalai Lama  - There are three legs to
the stool called happiness: Peace, Passion, and
Compassion. 

According to Carl Rogers    The ideal human condition
is embodied in the "fully functioning person" who is
open to experience, able to live existentially, is
trusting in his/her own organism, expresses feelings
freely, acts independently, is creative and lives a
richer life; "the good life" (Rogers, 1961).  It
should be noted that; "The good life is a process not
a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination
(Rogers, 1961, p.186)". The needs for unconditional
positive regard from others and positive self-regard
must match organismic evaluation so there is
congruence between self and experience.
 
According to Albert Ellis -  Unhealthy emotions are
not caused by the bad things that happen to us. They
are caused by the irrational thoughts we have about
those events.  Rigid beliefs -- that the world should
be a certain way -- such as "I should have supportive
friends" or "I absolutely shouldn't have all this
pressure at work" -- are often at the root of
emotional problems. They lead to three kinds of
irrational thought pattern. The first is a low
tolerance of frustration -- the irrational tendency to
believe any event that turns out to be inconvenient
for us should not have happened. The second thought
pattern, known as "awfulising", is the belief that
some events are so terrible that they cannot be
countenanced; they simply should not happen. Finally,
there are thought patterns that lead us to condemn
ourselves or others, such as the view that if I lose
my job I am worthless. These patterns are irrational
because they make demands about events outside our
control. They are self-defeating because they make it
impossible for us to do anything about a bad situation
except be anxious that it might happen or depressed if
it already has.

According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi    Flow  describe
his observations of humans  happiest states. Flow he
says is more or less being heavily involved in an
activity - be it work, a hobby, sex, music etc. - in
which you've tuned out to everything else. It s a sort
of zen-like living in the present through immersion in
a desired action. One key ingredient of flow is a
challenge that can be reasonably responded to with
existing resources. That tells us that it is
important, if we are going to achieve Flow States, to
challenge ourselves regularly. 

According to that singer whose name I can t remember -
 Don t worry, be happy. 

Best regards,

Scott Badger :-)

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