X-Message-Number: 3521
Date: 21 Dec 94 15:55:09 GMT
From: "Mark B. Kaminsky" <>
Subject: CRYONICS: Re:I'm ready to sign, but my wife is against it.
> Date: Tue, 20 Dec 1994 01:59:34 -0600
> From: Will Dye <>
>
> Well, I've fought the idea as best I could, but I've finally concluded
> that cryonics is a better choice than the alternatives. I've received
>...
> But that's not why I'm writing. I'm writing because my wife is 100%
> against my going into cryosuspension.
>
Well so am I, if you put it that way. But it's better than being buried.
(My point is that how you present cryonics is important. You don't
WANT to be suspended any more than you want to have heart surgery.
You know that, but you have to express that.)
> She thinks the whole idea is sick, twisted, and generally (her term)
> "spooky". Her reaction caught me completely off-guard. I had never
> personally encountered strong opposition to cryonics before. Most of
Your post is very much like the one I sent a number of years ago
(I believe #362 - Jun 26 1991 is the one) and plenty of people were there
before me. Let me give you an update. I've been signed up neuro with
Alcor since Oct 1992 (one of the easier dates for me to remember:
Columbus + 500 years). My wife still thinks cryonics is kooky, and no
way would she consider it for herself, but she is much more accepting
of my choice. She has gone from being dead set against it to being
cooperative.
Remember that it took YOU many years and a lot of thinking for you to
get to your current point of exploring signup. You need to give her
time to accept and understand it too. What worked for me was to be
understanding yet firm in my choice and reasons, but be willing to
drop the subject if it looked like it was going to lead to an argument.
Laugh along with all the freezer jokes directed at you.
I hope that what worked for me works for you, but remember that in
the final analysis you have to take care of yourself. This doesn't
mean that you have to get a divorce or drop friends that don't
agree with you, just that you can't let them decide your fate.
Good Luck!
Mark B. Kaminsky,
[ Mark, thanks for pointing out your message #362. I have appended below
one-liners describing the messages in that thread. These messages, all
from 1991, can be retrieved by sending email to me with the Subject line:
CRYOMSG 36[245689] 37[0-3]
- KQB ]
1991
# LINES/CHARS DATE AUTHOR / SUBJECT
- ----------------- ----------------
362 66/3203 Jun 26 Kaminsky / Insurance, Organ Donation, Spousal Approval
364 86/4226 Jun 27 Metzger / Re:Insurance, Organ Donation, Spousal Approval
365 23/1137 Jun 28 Levy / Re: ... Spousal Approval
366 22/1133 Jun 28 Stevenson / Attitudes Toward Death and Life Extension
368 29/1384 Jul 1 Donaldson / Re: ... Spousal Approval
369 200/10694 Jul 1 Bridge / Re: Insurance, Organ Donation, Spousal Approval
370 32/1583 Jul 1 Metzger / Re: ... Spousal Approval
371 12/607 Jul 1 Stevenson / Re: ... Spousal Approval
372 20/1026 Jul 2 Levy / Re: ... Spousal Approval
373 18/964 Jul 2 Lovejoy / Re: ... Spousal Approval
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